Why Aren’t I Getting Matches on Dating Apps?
Most dating apps use a swipe system where you can either swipe left or right on a profile. Some offer advanced filters like age, location and algorithm-based compatibility.
Be careful not to swipe left too often, as this can get you shadowbanned or even banned from the app. Here are some reasons why you might be getting 0 matches on dating apps: 1. You have a bad profile.
1. You have a bad profile
If you’re not getting matches on dating apps, your profile could be to blame. It’s understandable to want to put your best foot forward, but if you’re using photos that are too dated, cliche, or offensive, it can turn potential matches off.
It’s also important to use the “show don’t tell” technique when writing your self-summary. It’s more appealing to a potential match to show that you are funny by sharing an amusing story or detail, rather than telling them that you are.
2. You’re too picky
Having high standards is normal, but it’s also possible to be too picky. A good example of this is when you have an “all or nothing” approach to dating, meaning that if someone doesn’t meet your exact criteria (i.e., they’re not a tall blonde companion with brown eyes who speaks five languages), you immediately chalk them up as a dud.
Another sign of being too picky is when you have unrealistic expectations about your meet-cutes and the whirlwind romance that will follow. This may be a result of watching too many rom coms, but it can also be a form of self-protection in case you get hurt. Either way, this mentality is a surefire recipe for disappointment. Don’t let your expectations keep you from finding a partner who makes you happy.
3. You’re too aggressive
You might be swiping right on profiles without a good reason, which can lower your Bumble profile’s score. Also, leaving your profile empty or omitting prompts can make users assume the worst about you.
Also, it’s important to have a compelling bio and refreshing your photos often, as this can help boost your visibility on the platform. It’s also important to check your app daily and respond to messages quickly, as conversations on Bumble can expire after 24 hours.
A new study shows that men tend to be more aggressive when contacting potential matches, but women are more conscious of their own attractiveness in terms of how they approach users they’re interested in. Overly aggressive or suggestive wording can creep out your match and make them less likely to reciprocate your interest.
4. You’re too passive
Many people don’t succeed in online dating because they don’t put in the effort to make it work. They can be lazy, self-absorbed, or if they have unrealistic dating goals.
Some people also use online dating to boost their own egos by competing with how many matches they get in a day. They’re called ‘collectors’ and they’re not going to actually connect with anyone – they just want the attention.
If you find that you are getting no matches, consider changing your approach. Try to be more active and less passive, and focus on chemistry over appearances. It will improve your chances of finding love online. If you’re not seeing results, you can also try changing the app you are using or the profile you have.
5. You’re too old
Online dating can be scary, especially for older people. There are a lot of bad people out there, and the internet can be an unforgiving place. Even something as simple as a typo can be misinterpreted. And when you’re communicating via text, your inflection is lost.
That never happens when you’re talking face-to-face, but it can on dating apps. It’s a never-ending supply of options, and it can lead to high expectations. But the good news is that dating apps can still work for many people. Just try not to get too frustrated with the process. And be sure to try other ways of meeting new people, too. This story comes to you from NPR Life Kit, our family of podcasts about all the things that make life better.